It feels like I am building myself after the big Tsunami. As if I am designing a manmade island, I am making sure that there is a synergy and harmony in every aspect of me.
It is a great feeling when you know your strengths and weaknesses. I haven’t ever thought that I would turn to be a stronger woman after Tsunami. Sometimes we just meet people who will always pick on our defaults. For instance, I have always been a woman with a high temper; little things get on my nerves, leaving me angry and pissed off. Yet I am perfect in managing any serious crisis whether at home, work or with friends. I am able to handle big issues better than little teeny weeny things.
However, it seems that this is the human nature; we intend to look at the empty half of a good bottle of wine. I am a bit confused here because I usually look at the person whether a lover or a friend as a whole, I cannot pick and choose qualities I like, and keep pointing on the qualities that I cannot like. Our personalities are made over years; it is accumulations of all our experiences, values and beliefs which were given to us by our societies and families.
Tsunami used to always pick on my high temper, he was able to acknowledge it, but unfortunately never been able to deal with it. My dad- God Bless His Soul- taught me a lifetime lesson, he told me: “You can never change a person, if the person is 43 years old, it will take you another 43 years to change him, so you might think that it is better to accept people as they are, and try to adapt to the things that you don’t necessarily like, so you can have fun in life and not be miserable” I did as per my dad’s advice. I honestly did, and I always do whether with family or friends, and with Tsunami, I believe, my adaptation was beyond my own expectations, when I look back now, it was like bending over. Yet, he never stopped of reminding me of my defaults, and never remembering any of my strengths or qualities.
It has been now 2 months and I am working on “regulating my emotions”, it feels really great as I said before, to know your weaknesses, acknowledging that you have weaknesses is absolutely an achievement. I am calmer, happier and I feel that I am wiser and stronger. I can feel my inner core. I have been reading Confucius for the past few weeks, and he says that if someone wants to feel the inner peace and live in harmony, we need to, first; acknowledge and be aware of our weaknesses. I am so glad for the fact that I am on the right track. Confucius also said, it is important to adapt and accept people the way they are, without any attempts of changing the things that are not as we like. We need to see people through our hearts and souls, not through our own filters. Our hearts and souls need to be open.
I have learnt a lot fromthis experience, I am still learning a lot about myself and life, my qualities which should be acknowledged and my weaknesses that I am working on, yet most importantly, I am opening my heart and my soul to see things clearer, be less judgemental and more human.
I must confess, that Mr. President has this massive impact on me, he definitely reminded me of all my good qualities as a woman.He sees things through his Golden heart, and touches the soul so deeply.
Confucius said:” Our eyes see too much of the word, and too little of the heart and soul”
Aurora
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