The Advice...

I have decided to change the name of Protokletos, because so many have sent me asking what does the name mean; I cannot reveal the identity of this man, so I thought that the best name that suits him is: Mr. President. (In few days I will let you know why)

Too often we underestimate, in fact, forget the power of a real smile, an honest compliment, a human touch, a certain look we get, a listening ear. We intend to believe that care and compassion are a done deal things… things we have taken for granted, whether with our friends, families, partners, co-workers, bosses, and lovers. As if it has become our right which we earned effortlessly.

I personally wonder what is the average time we spend on making others happy, do we really think of making others happy? Is it part of our human nature? Does it really matter? Does add anything to our lives? Does it make us feel good? Do we really care if the people around us are really happy or we choose not to think of this question? Because we are so busy and at the end of the day… life has to go on…

Recently, and as I mentioned before, I am on a mission to rediscover my life. I am using various methods; holistic healing, therapy, books, articles, tests, talking to family, friends… anyway; it is a long process, which I am determined to go through. But what is confusing me the most is the issue of being caring, kind and compassion. I honestly don’t know how being caring and kind can be an issue in a relationship. The other thing that is confusing me too; Am I being this way because this is my nature and I do feel responsible for everybody, or do I truly expect the others to appreciate that?

Lately, Mr. President advised me on how I should be as woman, since according to him, I am smart, beautiful and intellectual, yet I must work on the following points:

First: I shouldn’t be too caring; everybody can take care of themselves
Second: I shouldn’t be too nice, kind and polite
Third: I have to give men in my life some hard time
Fourth: I shouldn’t settle for less
Fifth: I have to set my boundaries

I don’t see a problem with the third, fourth and fifth points, it is true, I must work harder. Yet I cannot deal with first 2 points. I really don’t know how to stop myself from being caring to others, especially those who mean a lot to me, whom I feel happy when they are happy. I feel great when I can make their life much easier. When I am there for them and they can count on me. However, I do agree with Mr. President, because the first 2 points lead to the other 3 points, and the best example on that is my recent relationship with Tsunami.
When I met Tsunami, he was such a miserable sexy man. I felt like I want to change the whole World him, just to make him happy, my compassion was in control, when I used to succeed to surprise him and draw a smile on his face, I used to be on cloud number 9. Since Tsunami decided to walkout of his marriage, I deployed my mind, heart and soul at his service. I couldn’t be but caring, kind and loving… but all that led to be taken for granted, to never ever be a priority whether in his life or mine, to neglect my needs as a woman. Unfortunately, Tsunami forgot that I am only a caring woman, who needed a loving heart… a heart that can appreciate my kindness and compassion.

Mr. President, you are right, and you are The Master in making a woman feels like a true woman in every moment.

I will try next time to set my boundaries and not to settle for less…


I love this quote by the Dalai Lama:” If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion”

Aurora