The Blanket

My friend Nora is a very accomplished lady. Smart, cute, educated and exposed.
She is specialist in her field. She is that kind of a woman that can stimulate your brain. I always seek her advice and sometimes I voice out my frustrations about different things in life. I like her a lot because she is very honest and straightforward. I always feel that she is genuine with her feelings and support.

Yesterday, I had a lovely chat with Nora. She too had a recent breakup after an intense 2 year relationship. We were exchanging our views on how and why deteriorations occur between couples. Nora said something that I want to share with everybody. She said that few months ago, she felt that her blanket of security with her Ex didn’t exist anymore. She described to me that she stopped trusting him, she stopped feeling that if she jumps from a roof, he won’t be there to catch her. I was mesmerized for the metaphor she used. It is so unique and true.

This is such a sad horrible feeling for a woman to have. Of course, I felt EXACTLY the same. Trust and security are the base for any relationship, whether with family, friends, or lovers. Confucius said: “Base yourself in loyalty and trust”.

In today’s World, actually particularly in this century, women are assuming major strategic leadership positions, it is said that the 21st century is the Women’s century. This is great achievement. I do believe that women are as equal as men in many things in life, we can do the same jobs, we can make more money than men, we are almost doing all professions. Yet, we are psychologically and physiologically different.
We were made by God this way. I am pro the idea that there is no glass ceiling for women. Unfortunately, because how women in leadership or other positions are acting, men started to believe that we are equal in everything. Still, the woman needs to feel sheltered by a man, this feeling of security is extremely important. Nora has put it in the most beautiful and eloquent description for a woman leader in her filed. We always need the blanket. We always need to feel that somebody will catch us if we fall. After all, we are only human beings… we are women; we were created from the men’s ribs!!!!

Having a human heart is not shameful. I really wonder when a woman loses trust and the feeling of security with her partner, what and how would her partner feel?
Especially that at the very beginning everything starts with a honeymoon

Nora, I agree, we all want “to love and be loved” feel secured and happy, yet, life is full of little blessings which we intend not to see. I am blessed by having you in my life, I am blessed by so many people and things around me, and I feel grateful all the time, I always want to give more from my heart.
Trust me; better be without any blanket rather than having a rotten fake blanket.

Remember Mr. President’s fourth rule: “don’t settle for less”

Be happy and count your blessings…

Aurora