I am honestly a person who gave second and third chances to many people in my life, family members, friends, co workers and lovers. I do believe in second chances. We are all humans, we make mistakes, and we misjudge, miscommunicate and misinterpret many things all the time with different people.
Forgiveness is like Gold, it lasts forever… comes directly from the heart and can make everybody happy, content and proud.
I recently met a lovely lady, I will call her Imeon because this is her favorite name, she instantly became part of my life, and we perfectly connected. She is a good looking, smart and determined woman. Imeon and I have so many things in common, but what we strongly share is that both of us have dropt a whole life for the sake of love. It might seem to so many that it’s ok for a woman to abolish her life in order to be with the one she loves, but we are not in the beginning of the 19th century anymore; women and men are almost equal nowadays; of course I am talking here about professional equality, not social, we are still very behind in this area, regardless of what so many may claim, we are so prejudice with divorced single moms, even with single women in their 30s or 40s, we still think twice if we should hire a lady in her early 30s who has a boyfriend, in case she decides to get married and have children in the future, or a newly wedded woman, who might get pregnant. But when an accomplished woman decides to abolish her life for the sake of love, this is something so important to be considered. It is as if giving up your freedom and independence and accepting to go to jail voluntary, well we can consider it a sweet jail, but indeed… not at all times
Imeon used to be a well established lawyer in her city, decided to follow her heart and go with the flow… to live a real love story, an emotional adventure. We, the women, we all seek to live a true love story that would be crowned in the future with a nice wedding party and few children in the coming years. I am sorry if some women would pretend that they can or live differently, but deep inside of each one of us, we all want to become mothers and wedded wives, and regardless of our high professional rank or achievements… we are the womb of the Earth.
Imeon had a worse Tsunami than mine, ended up with emotional wounds. So she again lived in a luggage, left her country and started all over a new life, with hopes that this time she will succeed regardless the pain she has deep inside. Few months later, Imeon met Mikki, a handsome entrepreneur chef, who also had his share of pain and disappointment in love. They clicked, they found s resort of heaven in each other… for Imeon, whom her heart was shut, the sun of a new love started crawling slowly, drawing a lovely smile on her beautiful face, covering her with the warm feeling of love and being loved. For the second time in her life she decided to give in for the power of love. Imeon and Mikki decided to partner and have their own little restaurant, a place you feel love in every corner. Now, they have been together for 3 years. We were having one of those dinners that you won’t forget in your lifefew days ago, and they both were explaining to me that they have decided to get married, so I got all excited and started hugging them, but they both said, well not soon, when they will both be in their 60s, because marriage is not the beginning…. It is the destination… in the meantime… they want to enjoy the journey… and be grateful for having this second chance.
As per a good friend of mine, he said that we women intend to build our relationships on potential… I cannot but agree with you my dear friend… because if we weren’t so, no second or third chances would have ever been possible. … No love would have ever seen the light…
I am definitely inspired by Imeon and Mikki… being open to love and be loved… adventurous and willing to do your best for the sake of love… yet … when this happens … I urge you men (Adams) to appreciate it… never take it for granted… reciprocate it, respect it, be willing to give from your heart, and most importantly be committed even without the religious commitment… seize the journey….
Imeon, all what I would like to tell you that the essence of a woman’s power lays in her heart… although we went through terrible Tsunamis… our hearts remain as priceless as diamonds…waiting to be placed on the most giving and worthy crown.
Aurora
Wednesday, 16 June 2010
Monday, 7 June 2010
The Power
I am confused! When does a person decide to get rid of being self controlled?
We grow up in families, societies that impose on us certain values, beliefs, views about life, religion, sex, male, female, education, relationships, politics and many other things… basically almost everything. This is a form of control. I personally was raised up this way, with a room to think and argue what has been filtered to me.
I noticed that, the older I am getting the more liberal and free I am becoming, of course, exposure and education play a great deal on freeing the soul and unleashing the potential. Recently, I have been into so many discussions with some friends on how self controlled we are, although we claim to be so open and free but the truth we are not… actually we are very far. Last year, when I decided to drop my whole life for Tsunami, live an adventure although it was shockingly very painful, I believe that I over came all the odds of self control which I previously suffered from. What I mean here, is just be, live life, without any anticipation or planning. Of course, I used to be control and planning freak, but this wasn’t the case in my love life.
In love and massive attraction, we intend to worry; plan jump into conclusions. This even gets worse, at least for females, especially right after having sex. But honestly, why some men are acting this way too? If we the females are more emotional than men, why men are becoming emotions and feelings control freaks? As if- quoting a friend here- “we don’t want to get hurt”. If 2 people, a male and a female, met, liked each other, attracted to one another, can speak about anything in the World, have great sex, like almost the same things, and one little detail here, can sleep deeply and well when they are together. Why they would want to control and plan their feelings? Why they want to stop being natural and wear a mask, hide and pretend to be someone else??? In life you can control almost everything, but seriously we cannot control the heart… and the chemistry between 2 souls!!!! We can close our eyes on my many things in life, but we cannot close our hearts and souls… we just cannot. I fully disagree with idea that men has to master and control their passions… well men after all are human being too… why are we asking too much from them!!! Or in other words, why they should continue the act of self control… is it a secret of happiness or misery???
It is just so alright to let yourself go, to let your soul be… as long as you can get it back, you will get it back, but in a different shape, look, smell and color. Because, once we surrender to the other, we let go of our soul. We entrust our soul to somebody, some will feel that their soul is becoming richer day after day; their soul is more real and happier, more than ever. They would finally feel complete
Yet on the other hand, others will get back their souls, in a hard way, but still, their souls will grow and mature. Whatever the out come might be, we can never know unless we try. Of course our strength here is in how we react, in our attitude.
No one can live in fear of something bad might happen, this won’t be life, it is as if being dead while being alive… just be, live life to the max, fall and rise, hit the ground then bounce back… this is the secret of love… so unpredictable, unexplainable yet cannot live without it… many opportunities come and go in our lives, but unique opportunities are rare, what a waste if we let our self control and fears be the source of our power…we live once, women or men…
Aurora
We grow up in families, societies that impose on us certain values, beliefs, views about life, religion, sex, male, female, education, relationships, politics and many other things… basically almost everything. This is a form of control. I personally was raised up this way, with a room to think and argue what has been filtered to me.
I noticed that, the older I am getting the more liberal and free I am becoming, of course, exposure and education play a great deal on freeing the soul and unleashing the potential. Recently, I have been into so many discussions with some friends on how self controlled we are, although we claim to be so open and free but the truth we are not… actually we are very far. Last year, when I decided to drop my whole life for Tsunami, live an adventure although it was shockingly very painful, I believe that I over came all the odds of self control which I previously suffered from. What I mean here, is just be, live life, without any anticipation or planning. Of course, I used to be control and planning freak, but this wasn’t the case in my love life.
In love and massive attraction, we intend to worry; plan jump into conclusions. This even gets worse, at least for females, especially right after having sex. But honestly, why some men are acting this way too? If we the females are more emotional than men, why men are becoming emotions and feelings control freaks? As if- quoting a friend here- “we don’t want to get hurt”. If 2 people, a male and a female, met, liked each other, attracted to one another, can speak about anything in the World, have great sex, like almost the same things, and one little detail here, can sleep deeply and well when they are together. Why they would want to control and plan their feelings? Why they want to stop being natural and wear a mask, hide and pretend to be someone else??? In life you can control almost everything, but seriously we cannot control the heart… and the chemistry between 2 souls!!!! We can close our eyes on my many things in life, but we cannot close our hearts and souls… we just cannot. I fully disagree with idea that men has to master and control their passions… well men after all are human being too… why are we asking too much from them!!! Or in other words, why they should continue the act of self control… is it a secret of happiness or misery???
It is just so alright to let yourself go, to let your soul be… as long as you can get it back, you will get it back, but in a different shape, look, smell and color. Because, once we surrender to the other, we let go of our soul. We entrust our soul to somebody, some will feel that their soul is becoming richer day after day; their soul is more real and happier, more than ever. They would finally feel complete
Yet on the other hand, others will get back their souls, in a hard way, but still, their souls will grow and mature. Whatever the out come might be, we can never know unless we try. Of course our strength here is in how we react, in our attitude.
No one can live in fear of something bad might happen, this won’t be life, it is as if being dead while being alive… just be, live life to the max, fall and rise, hit the ground then bounce back… this is the secret of love… so unpredictable, unexplainable yet cannot live without it… many opportunities come and go in our lives, but unique opportunities are rare, what a waste if we let our self control and fears be the source of our power…we live once, women or men…
Aurora
Wednesday, 2 June 2010
The Model….
Lives have been lost while the Whole World is watching… I question myself, should we lose hope? Should we just accept that the World will never be fair with the Palestinians? Should we just sit and watch more Israeli massacres? Have we become immune and indifferent? Should we just add to Sabra and Shatilla, 1982 Beirut invasion, Kana and now Freedom Flotilla?
In my part of the World I believe we have become like a sponge, we are just soaking and not reacting. Even our reactions are irrational, our systems are deaf. We are swept away by dealing with the day to day burdens and challenges. The parents’ main concern is to provide food on the table. We have no direction, no vision, no belief in our identity, no faith that we can be engines of change… a change for a better tomorrow.
We are scattered, indifferent to each other, every group wants to be the leader, we ended up fighting, and working against one another. We pretend that all have the right, we all have a case, we all need to have a voice, and we all have a philosophy. We manipulate religion and emotions. We abuse our current circumstances for our own agendas.
No wonder why we never get the support we aspire or the empathy we deserve.
When I was 19 years old, one of my professors back in school was Israeli, of course he knew I was coming from the Middle East, he taught me a lifetime lesson… he said to me:” you know why we the Israelis are better than you the Arabs?” of course I was agitated by his approach, but I was so attentive and curious to know, I said: “why? I would love to know” I thought he would tell me because God created us as his Chosen Population on Earth, repeat what everybody knew. He surprised me with his answer, he said with a very calm smile, while looking at me straight in the eyes:
” because we work together as one, when we see one of us is succeeding, and going up the ladder of leadership, we all work so hard to support and push him/her further up, so we can all go up and be in better positions and conditions, while you as Arabs, once you see someone is being promoted and in a high leadership position, you all work against each other and against him/her, until you drag the leader down, so all of you stay in the bottom.” I was mesmerized by his metaphor, which to my sadness is very true. I looked at him and said:” I will be like you in my professional and personal life, I will apply this across all aspects of my life, and wherever I will be. Thanks for sharing with me your secret for success”
I cannot elaborate more, but it’s so ironic that the Arab countries cannot agree on one statement, we cannot take one united stand, even when we have a Golden opportunity, when Israel showed the World its true face.
All what I am hoping for us is to turn this incident to our benefit, and work together and not against each other.
We are in urgent need to be united and act as one, as the German proverb say:
” Necessity unites”
What are we waiting for: let’s apply the Israeli model now, with our families, friends, co-workers, seniors, leaders… let’s unite and support one another.
Aurora
In my part of the World I believe we have become like a sponge, we are just soaking and not reacting. Even our reactions are irrational, our systems are deaf. We are swept away by dealing with the day to day burdens and challenges. The parents’ main concern is to provide food on the table. We have no direction, no vision, no belief in our identity, no faith that we can be engines of change… a change for a better tomorrow.
We are scattered, indifferent to each other, every group wants to be the leader, we ended up fighting, and working against one another. We pretend that all have the right, we all have a case, we all need to have a voice, and we all have a philosophy. We manipulate religion and emotions. We abuse our current circumstances for our own agendas.
No wonder why we never get the support we aspire or the empathy we deserve.
When I was 19 years old, one of my professors back in school was Israeli, of course he knew I was coming from the Middle East, he taught me a lifetime lesson… he said to me:” you know why we the Israelis are better than you the Arabs?” of course I was agitated by his approach, but I was so attentive and curious to know, I said: “why? I would love to know” I thought he would tell me because God created us as his Chosen Population on Earth, repeat what everybody knew. He surprised me with his answer, he said with a very calm smile, while looking at me straight in the eyes:
” because we work together as one, when we see one of us is succeeding, and going up the ladder of leadership, we all work so hard to support and push him/her further up, so we can all go up and be in better positions and conditions, while you as Arabs, once you see someone is being promoted and in a high leadership position, you all work against each other and against him/her, until you drag the leader down, so all of you stay in the bottom.” I was mesmerized by his metaphor, which to my sadness is very true. I looked at him and said:” I will be like you in my professional and personal life, I will apply this across all aspects of my life, and wherever I will be. Thanks for sharing with me your secret for success”
I cannot elaborate more, but it’s so ironic that the Arab countries cannot agree on one statement, we cannot take one united stand, even when we have a Golden opportunity, when Israel showed the World its true face.
All what I am hoping for us is to turn this incident to our benefit, and work together and not against each other.
We are in urgent need to be united and act as one, as the German proverb say:
” Necessity unites”
What are we waiting for: let’s apply the Israeli model now, with our families, friends, co-workers, seniors, leaders… let’s unite and support one another.
Aurora
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